“He slept beneath the moon, he basked beneath the sun; he lived a life of going to do and died with nothing done”
Do you ever find yourself sitting on the couch cross legged, with the tv on, having a severe headache and a heavy heart, for you are not able to manage your work and social circles? Your friends think of you as being selfish and self-obsessed, your family feels neglected and your personal ambition lies wrapped up in a blanket somewhere. In your mind, you are just facing another bad day but is it just one day of cribbing to yourself? I don’t think so.
You are flicking the tv channels, contemplating over the dilemma of the most common imbalance, the work and life balance. For you everything is important, so you are mentally putting together the jigsaw of your schedule for the next week, hopefully including everything, your friends, family and work, ignoring the rigorousness of it. Somewhere at the back of your mind you know what will happen…
Now let’s see through the window of your intelligent neighbour. Reading his favourite book while in the bathtub, he enjoys the white music playing in the background. His friends look up to him as a very sorted, ambitious, humble, selfless and wise person. What does he do differently?
Let’s look closely, for him also, there are the same difficulties of managing everything, but all he does which you don’t do is two things. Let’s look closely at each of them.
The first and the foremost thing is to prioritise. Every day before going to sleep, you should make a small note, not mental, but physical in a journal of yours, of what all you must do the very next day in the order of both importance and urgency. You must review major tasks for every week, on Sunday nights and keep track of your short term (i.e. monthly and quarterly goals) and long term targets too. You should keep the big picture in mind. And when in confusion, make sure to spend time on doing all of this, regardless of any distraction.
You should know where you are going and that’s life in the true sense of the word. It is what everyone ought to do, to be clear of their purpose, wants and targets. You should work upon your shortcomings diligently and make sure all work and no play does not make jack a dull boy, i.e. regularly take breaks and do whatever relaxes you. You should inculcate good hobbies and try to meet new people, engage in intelligent conversations, read everything you like, and talk sense. You should also develop a good sense of humour over time. So, instead of all the negativity allow good thoughts to originate, which is a predecessor to success!
The second most important thing, that everyone knows but does not pay heed to is, not to think what other people will say. Let me clearly write it, I don’t want to confuse it with being very rigid, not open to ideas or criticism or suggestions, or not hanging out. No. it means, you don’t feel the urge to please everyone at the cost of your own targets and goals. You must do everything but at the right time, according to your own pace. And make sure you never make anyone feel bad or dejected, have the right people skills to say no in a manner that does not offend anyone. So, one should complete his/her journey with the people who matter, ignoring the ones to whom your life goals do not matter. Don’t look to satisfy everyone, but yourself, your conscience.
I would like to end with a quote by house-
If nobody hates you, you’re doing something wrong.
PS- We already know these things, it is just that sometimes we need a gentle reminder to ponder upon ourselves.