Many people die with their music still in them. Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it time runs out.”
-Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.
We all know that we have one life to live and that there are no retakes. We know about all the good habits that one should possess for a successful life. We know about all the secrets there are to it, thanks to all the wisdom shared to us by successful people. We know that smart work and hard work should go hand in hand. So, what is the problem?
Did you notice the word ‘should’? That is the problem, my friend.
We all know about the ‘shoulds’. We all know about the ‘shouldn’ts’. What we fail to understand is ‘Why not?’. This can be relative to different people at different walks of life.
It can be genuine or ingenuine as well. Lets look closely.
Genuine problems can be innumerable. A disability, poverty, or an unavoidable situation. Its not in our control.
Ingenuine problems are the roots of the problem.
Someone wise said, ‘You cannot solve a problem until you accept the existence of it.’ So first thing is the “unacceptance of the problem”. How many times have you done something, as small as eating a chocolate when ill or as big as spending huge sum of money on something you know you can do without? Or maybe not followed your gym schedule just because you wanted to sleep some more or thrown away your to do list in anger?
Acceptance is the key. You need to introspect and identify and most importantly accept the ‘glitches’ in yourself. Only then can any work be done to make a master piece.
Second thing is having faith in oneself. Depression is growing at an alarming rate. Mental health of people is being affected by their daily stress and negativity around them. Will power and optimism are becoming so rare these days. So, the first thing you need to do is block all the comparisons, put a hold on this competitive journey and develop a faith in yourself that reiterates to you, that you can achieve anything if you work for it.
And to do this I come to step 3, set smaller goals, take baby steps and make a realistic plan. Don’t lie to yourself about the things you plan to do in a day or in a week. Don’t confuse it with not dreaming big. No. It means to remove the rose coloured glasses and then watch the world. Have a regular rain check.
Then , reward yourself for the things you do, even if its as small as reaching on time in a meeting or as big as getting a raise at work. Self appreciation is the best self esteem catalyst one can have.
Last but not the least, being open to criticism , as is said by everyone , is important. But actually how many of us do it? It takes a big heart, self control and discipline to listen to criticism and work upon it.
I would like to end by saying, that
Life lies outside the comfort zone. And its better to choke on greatness than to nibble on mediocrity.